How do I break up with her?
Currently I am in a two year relationship and we’re both fed up. I see her every weekend and am very fortunate to be in that situation. However, she lives at school an hour and a half away. She has to come home to see me on the weekends because I am currently pressed for money due to my own schooling situation. She lectures me all the time on how I need to grow up, stop working at a golf course, (I’m in school to become a PGA Professional.) I need that job to stay established in the golf world while I’m in school.
She gets incredibly upset that I cannot go out and see her at school. I have schooling of my own and other things to worry about. She takes the bus home to see me. So we fight a lot and she uses her ability to see me against me. I also do not write on her facebook wall as much as I used to, and that creates problems. I just don’t use facebook anymore!
Our fights are endless and we can’t seem to work them out. Right now she’s basically giving me the silent treatment. I have had enough of really giving her my all (given my current situation.) and having her not appreciate it or thank me for the things I do for her.
She treats me as though she’s my mother. And I’m frustrated and done. I have felt like this in the past and have been unable to break up with her. (She cries and I just don’t like that)
How do I man up and get this done? Also, what do you think of our relationship?
Thanks.
First sit down and figure out what you want to tell her. Then sit down with her and tell her and break up. There will never be a good time and she will most likely cry but do not allow that to change your mind. You are not responsible for her reaction. Keep in mind there are really bad times such as if her dog just died or something but generally a clean break is best. If she runs out and refuses to listen send her a letter via snail mail or e-mail so you have told her how you feel and you can have closure.
Your relationship sounds very much like my relationship in college. He was 200 miles away at college and I was young and immature and tended to mother. I learned a lot from it and eventually grew up. At the time it seemed like the end of the world when we broke up but eventually we both moved on and found awesome mates.
Right now you need to focus on your work and school and she needs to focus on her education.
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Well, you might have to resort to calling her and breaking up over the phone, if you hear tears, hang up. Then go out and do something fun. But before you do anything like that, try talking to her about this. You don’t want to make a mistake.
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I think you’re an idiot for looking for relationship advice on the internet. But I’ll be nice and give you actual advice. If you’re looking into breaking up, and you want to be a real man about it, actually go see her, sit her down, and tell her yourself. Do not do it over text, the phone, through, facebook, twitter, email, a friend… whatever. Go and talk to her about what’s bothering you. Be honest, and don’t use any attack phrases like "You always do this."
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First sit down and figure out what you want to tell her. Then sit down with her and tell her and break up. There will never be a good time and she will most likely cry but do not allow that to change your mind. You are not responsible for her reaction. Keep in mind there are really bad times such as if her dog just died or something but generally a clean break is best. If she runs out and refuses to listen send her a letter via snail mail or e-mail so you have told her how you feel and you can have closure.
Your relationship sounds very much like my relationship in college. He was 200 miles away at college and I was young and immature and tended to mother. I learned a lot from it and eventually grew up. At the time it seemed like the end of the world when we broke up but eventually we both moved on and found awesome mates.
Right now you need to focus on your work and school and she needs to focus on her education.
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Went through this when I was in college.